A.D. Cantelmo Property Management
Our Business is Property Management in Orange County California
How to keep people’s attention
All of us are experts at one thing and that’s ourselves, but
the problem is that some of us seem to talk about ourselves way too much. Is
there anything more frustrating than talking to someone and it seems as though
they really only care about what they have to say and most of it about
themselves. I have always found that it is much easier to get people to open up
when you make the conversation about them. Asking questions about the person
you are talking to will keep their attention and you may learn something.
I catch myself sometimes talking about what I think or
talking about what I am doing and when I do, I change the subject or at least
change the way I approach it and try to bring the conversation back to the
person I am talking to.
Using the word “YOU” is a great tool, or using the
person’s name that you are talking to will make that person more interested in
what you are saying. There are many words you can use to keep people’s
attention, but the most important thing to do is make sure you involve the people
you are talking to in the conversation.
A good example is: Let’s say you are going to interview
for a job and you sit down with the interviewer and start to talk about how
great you are. The interviewer may want to know about you, but don’t you thing
that interviewer would be more interested if you talked about what you can do
for him, or the company you want to work for. If you talk about how your
talents could help the company, that interviewer will give you much more of
their attention, then if you just monologue about yourself.
A great way to monitor yourself is if, when you are talking
to someone and instead of listening to what they are saying you are chomping at
the bit to spit out your words and cut them off before they are finished. We
are all guilty of that, especially when we are talking to someone on the phone.
If we find ourselves doing that, then try and listen before responding and then
the conversation will be a two way conversation where both parties feel part
of.
Being a good conversationalist is a talent that can be
cultivated with practice, but the key is to use words that make the other side
feel part of what you are talking about. Asking questions of the other party is
a great way to control the conversation but also make the other person feel
involved and that will help you with your conversation skills.
A.D. Cantelmo Property
Management Specializes in Property Management in Orange County
Ca.